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takes a hell of a lot to stand in front of the storm and hold your ground. keep up the fight for your rights. Louis

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Thanks Louis! Hope you’re well

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Just wondering if it is acceptable in 2023 for a man to tell a woman she looks good. Living the long blonde hair. If it’s not acceptable lest pretend I did not write this. Have a good day

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Haha, it's certainly acceptable to me. Thank you! I like it too :)

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Happy Birthday! The important thing you have going is being comfortable in your own skin. So many deal with jealousy, but you can only be the best you! Great substack!

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Well said! Sometimes it takes a while to become comfortable in your own skin, but it's definitely worth the journey. That's why I'd never trade places with my younger self, even though my skin had less wrinkles lol. Take care!

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You’re a good looking blonde so a plus there. Life comes in stages so no figuring out the big picture is my best advice. I remember mine. Then came later the mid life crisis (mine was smaller than most I think but looking back I know went through it). Now that’s in the rear view mirror a different stage. You’ll see. Many good wishes to you.

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Thank you, Curtis! Happy to hear you're in a good stage. May your wisdom continue to serve you well. Good wishes to you, too!

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congratulations of the #40. :). when you hit 58 you fall into the category of 55 & older. That's when you are old. at least on paper. with age comes wisdom - still sort of waiting on that part myself. there is always time to screw up. Time to fix it or apologize is what matters. BE WELL. LOUIS

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Haha, I'm sure you have plenty of wisdom. I'm definitely a fan of apologizing and fixing. We never know how much time we, or others, have. I'll look forward to all the AARP propaganda and discounts at least!!

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Joining AARP is the first step toward the old age home. 😉😊

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I think so much has shifted in the time in which we’ve both reached 40. When we were kids, 40 seemed an eternity away. Personally, and you know why, I didn’t expect to reach this age. So being here and getting closer to the age my mum was when she died always throws me for a loop. By my age, Mum had had 4 kids. She was chronically ill, and living in an abusive marriage. Her eldest was 13, her youngest was 5. Me, aged 40, I’m disabled and chronically ill, an artist and author who sells minimal amounts of content. But I’m free of abusive relationships, I’m surrounded by love from people who mean the world to me, and I’m an active member of my Unitarian Church.

I don’t have kids. Nor do I want them. 40 doesn’t seem like the age it once did. Half the time I don’t feel like I’m an adult. And then I look at the lifetime of experience I possess. Things that are too detailed to go into in a comment. Many of which you and I have talked about at length.

As society shifts it’s perspective due to our generation growing older, things change and that’s a good thing. We may not ever feel “adult” enough. But what I do know is I’m finally at a place where I know, I’m enough just as I am. Enough for me and enough for those who love me.

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You are more than enough, indeed. It seems strange that we're wired to have to go through so much pain to figure that out, but it seems to be how it goes. So glad that you get to tell me how the weather is up ahead ;) and that you've fought to have the life and friends you have. You deserve it. Love you, darling.

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Sei bella e solare quanto intelligente!

Ti auguro il meglio per te dalla vita.

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Thank you

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